I posted this today on Observation Mommy (my Tumblr page), but I thought it warranted a post here as well. (Because you all like having updates on the kiddos occasionally, right?)
Almost a year since The Prince was born, there is still a lot of lingering resentment from The Boy. I get it; his whole world changed and now he has to share Mommy and Daddy, and his toys.
Growing up, my relationships with my four siblings was one of the best things in my young life. Sure we fought, sometimes a lot, but we were always there for each other. And as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned how to be better friends with each of my siblings. So I’ve always wanted that for my boys, and was beginning to doubt it was going to happen.
The Prince, of course, loves his older brother, idolizes him. But The Boy has mostly shown annoyance and barely tolerates The Prince. There’s been the rare hug or kiss or concern when The Prince is crying, but not as much as I was hoping for.
Then, the other day the hubby witnessed them playing together with cars The Boy had willingly, with no prompting shared. It lasted about five minutes before a fight, but it was a start. And then yesterday, The Prince reached into The Boy’s car case (where all the fun rescue vehicles are kept) and The Boy didn’t yell. In fact, he said to his little brother, “You can play with that,” and proceeded to give me a selection (of his non-favorite) rescues to play with.
I was one happy mama! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and I think we may be reaching the end. I’m not expecting peace all the time (or even most of the time), but at least now I know it is a possibility.
Good luck with that, Katie. LOL My two sons were less than two years apart and I didn’t think they would EVER stop fighting or tormenting their sisters. They are all grown with kids of their own now, and somewhere along the line they did stop.
I enjoy reading about your boys.
Leona
I’m not expecting any miracles or anything. I know siblings will fight, but it was nice to see that they do have the capacity to get along for at least a few minutes. Thanks for letting me know you enjoy reading about the boys. 🙂
Courage! The best thing you’ve done for The Boy is give him a little prince. I remember what DS replied to my attempt at reassuring him after his sister was born that he was as loved as before. “It will NEVER AGAIN be all right.” This two-and-a-half year old already had a powerful way with words… Alas, his “never” lasted about six months longer. My kids are and were very close.
Too cute, Mirka! My older one has always had a way with words as well…in fact he hardly stops talking some days.